Humiliation; being exposed before you’re ready to be exposed. Humiliation brings a vast wave of powerful, uncontrollable emotion that can lead us into a shame spiral and emotional paralysis.
I guarded against humiliation at every moment, in everything I did in life. Not dealing with the emotions of embarrassment, I learned not to feel safe within myself, to have no internal boundaries, and to have no self-protection in guarding against the extremely debilitating feelings of shame that the humiliation triggered.
To overcome humiliation, we need to embarrass ourselves to ourselves. By becoming comfortable with being embarrassed, we fear humiliation less and, therefore, slowly healing our hypervigilance, codependency, panic, self-hate, and shame
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Joe Ryan has been on a lifelong journey of overcoming trauma, shame, and the demons that plague him from his childhood. He has turned his mission outward, helping other people to conquer their traumatic pasts. Through his podcast ‘It’s Not You; It’s Your Trauma’ and one on one coaching.
Joe is paving the way for people to heal. He is baring his soul publicly to extend a hand to people who might feel stuck or frozen in their healing journeys. There are coaches out there who strive to do the same, but what sets Joe apart is that his voice embodies such compassion and warmth; when you hear it, it permits you to feel whatever you need to feel to progress on your emotional journey.
Father of two…
I take pictures, write, and obsess.
You can find me bouncing around New York City or by a lakeside fire. I was on a Pearl Jam kick, now starting my day with The Revivalists
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Previously Published on joeryan.com
Real, genuine, vulnerable, and honest talk. There are no quick fixes from trauma, abuse, addiction, PSTD, or anxiety. Knowing what happened to you is only part of the process, we have to relive the feelings, emotions, and scenes we avoid. When we stop blaming, making excuses and take responsibility for our own emotions, that’s the start of moving from victim to surviving, from surviving to survivor and finally to thriving and teaching.
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